Yesterday when I reached his school to pick him up from the daycare, his Daycare supervisor was standing right at the steps and on seeing me she went on and on at how naughty and a brat he's turning into. She herself was so surprised at his change of behaviour since she said he was the best behaved boy amongst the lot when she started working here 4 months ago.
But now he just doesn't want to listen to anyone. One minute he will be playing and the other minute he would whack a child for no reason. He refuses to share things with other playmates, gets angry if his demand is not carried out, will not sing in the music class and the list went on and on.
I just didn't know what to say to the teacher and told her you have the freedom and all rights to discipline him the way you want to. And I've total trust in the Daycare supervisor knowing her for so long now. She is really good with kids and lets the child do what they want to and not stopping them from doing activities just because they will mess up.
I spoke to Anirudh then and there and he nodded his head when I asked him if what the Ma'am said was right. And when I asked him to say sorry, he did say it but after bit of coaxing and cajoling.
On the way home in the car, I spoke to him about participating in the music class and singing with all the children and he told me he will. Later at home when I broached the topic again about him singing with the other children I got a curt reply "Maine haan bola to tha car mein" (I did say yes in the car) referring to our earlier conversation which basically meant why am I repeating things again and again. :P
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Tuesday, June 19, 2007
Crying, stubborn and a defiant child!
Till now I've been all the time posting about how good, adorable and lovely child he is. But that's just one part of the story. He can be as adorable as he can get and at the same time as badmash, as uncontrollable and stubborn too!
Recently he's got this habit of crying at the drop of the hat! For reason or no reason. And it kind of irritates me and DH both. When you scold him, he will actually pay no attention to what we are telling him but will start crying.
Even if we try to reason with him that what he was dong was wrong without reprimanding him in any manner whatsoever, he would still start crying.
Its so irritating when he cries at anytime and every time. Whether you are scolding him or just talking to him. He just knows that crying out will get him things the way he wants. But before you start thinking that we give in whenever he starts crying, NO..we don't. There are times when we will let him cry for 10-15 mins and then he will come and cuddle with us. Once he is quiet and we will talk to him about what he did wrong, he will nod his head and will say not to do again.
But again the same thing will start on something or the other. I really don't know where are we going wrong and what should we do to stop this behaviour.
In the mornings we literally have to drag him to take his bath so crying starts. Once in the bath, crying stops. When time comes to get out of the bath, crying starts. First he doesn't want to take bath and then he doesn't want to come out! This is just one example that I'm writing about here. It gets maddening at times!
If you scold him, he will come back to us asking "Aapne mujhe kyun daanta?" When you reason with him, he doesn't listen. When he does something wrong I usually tell him to "Hold your ears and stand in the corner." Now he's picked up this line and when he gets angry because we are not doing things as he would want us to, we get to hear back these lines on us. "Hold your ears! Stand in the corner!"
There have been few time long ago when he would trouble me while I would be driving I would tell him that "I will put him out of the car!" But later I realised it wasn't a great idea so stopped saying it. On Sunday out of the blue, he got angry while we were going back home after dropping his Dadu, he goes "Main aapko gaadi se bahar kar doon?"
So all this makes me so confused as to what should we do to control him and what we shouldn't do. Any ideas are truly welcomed!
Recently he's got this habit of crying at the drop of the hat! For reason or no reason. And it kind of irritates me and DH both. When you scold him, he will actually pay no attention to what we are telling him but will start crying.
Even if we try to reason with him that what he was dong was wrong without reprimanding him in any manner whatsoever, he would still start crying.
Its so irritating when he cries at anytime and every time. Whether you are scolding him or just talking to him. He just knows that crying out will get him things the way he wants. But before you start thinking that we give in whenever he starts crying, NO..we don't. There are times when we will let him cry for 10-15 mins and then he will come and cuddle with us. Once he is quiet and we will talk to him about what he did wrong, he will nod his head and will say not to do again.
But again the same thing will start on something or the other. I really don't know where are we going wrong and what should we do to stop this behaviour.
In the mornings we literally have to drag him to take his bath so crying starts. Once in the bath, crying stops. When time comes to get out of the bath, crying starts. First he doesn't want to take bath and then he doesn't want to come out! This is just one example that I'm writing about here. It gets maddening at times!
If you scold him, he will come back to us asking "Aapne mujhe kyun daanta?" When you reason with him, he doesn't listen. When he does something wrong I usually tell him to "Hold your ears and stand in the corner." Now he's picked up this line and when he gets angry because we are not doing things as he would want us to, we get to hear back these lines on us. "Hold your ears! Stand in the corner!"
There have been few time long ago when he would trouble me while I would be driving I would tell him that "I will put him out of the car!" But later I realised it wasn't a great idea so stopped saying it. On Sunday out of the blue, he got angry while we were going back home after dropping his Dadu, he goes "Main aapko gaadi se bahar kar doon?"
So all this makes me so confused as to what should we do to control him and what we shouldn't do. Any ideas are truly welcomed!
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